3 secrets of resilient people
by Lucy Hone
TEDxChristchurch201916 min
Everyone experiences loss, but how do you cope with the tough moments that follow? Resilience researcher Lucy Hone shares three hard-won strategies for developing the capacity to brave adversity, overcome struggle and face whatever may come head-on with fortitude and grace.
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Five of Cups
A focus on past losses blinds the figure to the remaining hope and support.
grieflossregretdisappointmentemotional turning point
Why This Mapping?
This talk starts in devastation — the sudden death of Hone’s daughter — and stays honest about the abyss before offering grounded, non-spiritualized resilience practices.
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Five of Cups resonance:
Standing in irreversible loss
Allowing sorrow to coexist with agency
Choosing where attention rests (the overturned cups and the ones left standing)
Moving from paralysis toward grounded participation in life
This is the Five of Cups mid-turn: not yet healed, but no longer collapsed.
Reflection Questions
- •What loss do I need to fully mourn so I can finally let it go?
- •What supportive relationships or resources (the two cups) have I been ignoring?
- •Where am I choosing to focus on the negative instead of the potential for renewal?